“…but no one could heal her.” ( Luke 8:43) NIV Have you ever been in a place of painful uncertainty, desperate for answers? I have. And I have desperately wanted to be in a much different place. Uncertainty can be such a lonely place, but isn’t it a space...
Reclaiming Your Story
When Going Back Launches You Forward
Everything that has happened in your past has brought you to where you are today. EVERYTHING. Whether those experiences were sad or happy, traumatic or uplifting, forgettable or memorable, they have all led you to right here and now. When I was a little girl my...
Grateful For My Reclaimed Story
But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. 1 Corinthians 15:57 Jesus. My husband and three children. Our health. Good friends. My mom’s sobriety. Our home. Being self-employed alongside my husband. Homeschooling our children....
Living Our Story “New” In Christ
I am “that person” on a Sunday morning during baptisms. You have probably seen me: the one who is casually wiping the corner of her eyes, blinking super fast and hoping the tears would absorb before they roll down my cheeks. As a pastor, I have had the privilege of...
Drop The Weight
When most people think about dropping some weight, it usually refers to the need to lose a few pounds. Today, we aren’t talking about losing physical weight, but rather emotional and spiritual weight. In episode 31 of our podcast Living the Reclaimed Life,...
A Weekend With Other Survivors
“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.’” C.S. Lewis I am about to share with you a piece of my story. I am not looking to start a debate. Rather, this is simply me inviting you into a...
The Father’s Heart
“The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love.” Psalm 103:8 The human heart has such an incredible capacity, yet such an unbelievable fragility. It can love and it can lose. It can carry hope and also hurt. It...
The Tension Between What is Seen and Unseen
A few years ago, I was living a double life. The “seen” Valerie was a leader in ministry, friendly, engaging, and seemed to have it all together. Then there was the “unseen” Valerie who was acting out in fits of rage toward her family; battling anxiety,...
Trapped By Your Past?
For most of my adult life, I have felt that my story was my enemy. My story was heavy, like chains that shackled me to shame, denial, and fear. If I could just hide from it or outrun it, then I could live the life that I longed to live. So I kept striving, running...